Yesterday, I permanently deleted my facebook account. I have forever made the choice to go without status updates and liking random pictures, words and articles. I have freed myself from getting sucked into the barrage of white noise that usually fills my day. I have to tell you, this feels GOOD.
When I gave my 24 hour notice via status update, giving people who want to keep in touch via regular e mails, phone calls and snail mail a chance to exchange information with me, I had a mostly unanimous array of messages which basically stated, “Good for you. I wish I could do that. How are you doing that?” Another friend told me he wished he could, but just couldn’t because he relies on facebook for getting work… but if he didn’t worry about work, he’d be right there with me. I understood. I mean, I liked to use facebook to post about new blogs I had written, however, when scanning through my blog stats and looking at where people were actually getting referred to my blog, I noticed that facebook really doesn’t send me that many readers. Most of my readers come from serendipitous random places via other blogs or through the grapevine of people talking about me.
Then, I realized this fundamental truth about my life. I cannot hide from destiny, the opportunities that I seek will find their way to me, and facebook certainly does not make or break the rules of life. Don’t get me wrong, I know I need to put myself out there and I know I need to take action steps to bring forward what I seek. However, relying on facebook as a way to communicate or to be available seems kind of ridiculous.
Also, at this point in my life, my greatest intention is to form truly authentic relationships with myself and with other people. Since my experience of facebook is that it almost requires people to act a certain way, I am turned off to what it offers me in regards to relationship building.
Another person told me that I shouldn’t cancel my facebook account yet because it serves as great training wheels for global consciousness. At an earlier point of my facebook life, I may have agreed with that statement. He went on to say that without facebook, we as a people wouldn’t have had the right information about the Occupy Movement and would have been fed lies by the newscasters which made the protestors look like drunken bums. I thought about that and realized that most of what I learned about that movement actually did not come from facebook. In fact, by the time I heard about it on facebook, I was a little sick of seeing it and was looking for an outlet to feed my brain junk food. Honestly, at the end of the day, I trust myself to think for myself.
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That’s just it. Facebook has become junk food for my brain. For me, I see it became a lazy way to keep in touch with people and ultimately was a HUGE time suck which left me feeling deflated and wondering how I could be better spending my time.
So, I chose to break up with facebook. It really wasn’t that hard and I’m surprisingly not experiencing any withdrawal symptoms.
Thank you.

Ok so I’m gonna say it too… good for you! If I didn’t have family who I kept in touch with through facebook… I would let it go too.
Thank you!!!
I’m not much of FB junkie myself, but I love the notion of FB as junk food for your brain. Really great image, actually! Congrats on having kicked the habit.
Hugs,
Kathy
Thank you. I guess for some people it’s a great tool, but it’s true, to me fb is like sitting in front of a tv, shoving sugar and such into my brain, which leaves me feeling useless and bloated (but strangely wanting more) when I finally walk away. Glad to be rid of the addiction.
Have a wonderful day,
Currie
Good for you!!! Now whatever you do don’t get on Pinterest!!! LOL!!!
Thank you! You know what’s so funny? I just got off the phone with someone who wants to collaborate with me and use social media to implement our new idea. Luckily, we decided I could handle a different social media aspect, one which I really want to learn more about…. and I won’t be required to go back to facebook.
I haven’t really gotten to Pinterest yet, but I hear it’s going to explode.
Have a great day,
Currie
Goodbye Facebook, hello LinkedIn! (Accompanied with this Beatles song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99jVPJUeqr4
HAHA! I love it! Thank you.
Congratulations for choosing authentic relationships!!
Blogging is a much more involved way of being part of the global community, I think. The new bit on the Stats page that shows all the countries our readers come from proves it, I think.
Here’s to waking up!
Yes, here’s to waking up! I had no idea about the new feature to see where readers were coming from all over the world. I still prefer the old school stats… but WOW, I just checked it out and that is cool! I think that blogging is a better way to be connected because it’s not a stream of random information… it’s more concentrated and I believe more meaningful, because when I read a blog, I am taking more time to authentically connect. I am so happy to be rid of fb!
Thank you.
“Most of my readers come from serendipitous random places via other blogs or through the grapevine of people talking about me. ”
I like that…. “Serendipitous” is a stupendous word. It always sounds like clean water in a fast-running stream to me.
P.S. What an awesome Paul Simon song… I love that guy, but I hand’t heard this one. Thanks~~
I’m glad you liked the song. It’s one of my favorites by him.
I also think that “serendipitous” is a stupendous word. Cool way to think about it, like clean water washing away the old, maybe bringing in some new unexpected miracles.
I once ended my Facebook too. I chose to do so because I didn’t wish to remain so accessible to people who never really spoke with me. Receiving friend requests from someone and never having them actually communicate with with me was weird. Posting anything about myself or my life to merely have someone “like” it felt a bit off to say the least.
Eventually, I got another one…but this one only has a handful of friends that actually do use it as a source to keep in touch with me. I also have given every post I make a shelf-life and erase it after a short time. As for this Pinterest thing…I had one for a week. I thought that having a bookmark museum sounded kinda fun. But after a week, I was soooo bored with it.
Sigh. Perhaps I’m just not cut out for these computerish technologies. Give me a hiking trail over a lap top any day. I’m happy that you have decided to free your mind from all of the mind-numbing blatherings. Having your brain to yourself is a wonderful thing. Enjoy your break-up!
Thank you! It does feel oh so good. Yeah, I went over and checked out pinterest and I thought it was interesting, and actually did find some great photos for a vision board I am working on, but I have no interest in starting an account. Good for you for having a small facebook account. I know, it does feel weird to post something and then have people like it…. and other things about it just seem so plastic. Kind of sick of it. I used to do that with my posts too, sometimes I would delete them after a certain point. I used to be married to my laptop when I had one, and I do see the point of staying connected to the world through the web… but sometimes it’s nice to remember that there’s a whole world right outside your door, or maybe more authentic ways to connect on line. Thanks for your comment. Have a great day.
Awesome Post! I should “break up” with Facebook. It is better than the callous indifferent relationship that I have with it now.
Thank you! I know. Part of the whole reason why I chose to shut it down was that I had a very dysfunctional relationship with fb and I realized… Wait a sec, I have a choice. Why would I stay with something that doesn’t serve my best interest? Thanks for your comment and let me know if you choose to leave fb.
Have a great day!
Congratulations on LOGGING OUT and LIVING LIFE! I also started refraining from using Facebook that much. I only use it now for private messaging. It’s been quite a long time since I last posted there and I’ve never had so much peace in my life. You are right, people should stop connecting with people on a virtual level. It’s better to see people and get updates from them over coffee or dinner or picnic. And to tell you the truth, the blogs at WordPress are more enriching to the mind and soul than my contacts’ rants. Imagine me being to so many places since I’ve started with WordPress and interacting with no-nonsense folks. I’m more inspired now!
Thank you! I agree completely. As I left facebook and have truly made the effort to consciously engage with wordpress, I feel that my virtual life is rooted in a place of authenticity… and I like that. Though it’s much better to make contact over coffee, blogging definitely opens up the world on a deeper level when you aren’t close enough for a coffee date. I think it’s been three weeks or so since I quit facebook and now reflecting on that time, I can honestly say my general quality of life has improved. I feel more focused and connected to the world around me.
I’ve been threatening to do that for years! Maybe it is time to just take the plunge!
Maybe it is. I know in my experience, I don’t miss it, not even a little bit.
I’m so glad to know that other people are breaking up with Facebook, too! I deleted my account over a year ago – for the same reasons as you: I wanted true relationships in REAL life, I wanted more time, I wanted to make decisions based on my own wishes (rather than guided by what I see through other people’s lives). I wanted in-your-face true life, rather than the glazed and photoshoped and one-dimensional life of Facebook. Deleting FB has only brought good changes to my life!
Thank you Thank you! I am so glad we are both facebook free and I agree completely… my quality of life has only improved with the separation.
I feel what time I do spend on the internet is either for a specific purpose (linkedin) or building more authentic communication with others (this blog). You know what? I find in real day to day life that I am much more present and energized too.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.
Have a great night,
Currie
You’re right – not having some sort of virtual community of friends makes us more present and aware of our real communications and relationships. Hope being FB-free brings you many more great relationships in real life!
Thanks.