A few years ago, I had a small advice column for the college I attended in Oregon. I was just going through some old files on my computer and uncovered about 4 of the articles. I kind of like them, so for the next few days I will post them. I hope you enjoy or maybe even find some insights useful.
Why does god hate my love life?
-Really confused and lonley
The question shouldn’t be why does god hate my love life. No, the question should be why do I hate my love life. You see, the universe is more than willing to give us exactly what we desire……our only job is to be quiet and listen to exactly what our soul wants. It sounds like a fairly simple task, but actually – I have found it to be an extremely difficult and almost stress provoking activity due to our cultures bustling day to day activities such as appointments, classes, homework, social life….etc. (I could keep going but I think you get the point).
Anyway, if you sit and listen- you could uncover a plethora of hidden desires or tasks that your souls blueprint is screaming to get to work on. To help you better pick up what I am trying to put down, I will give you an example from my own life.
Recently, I was grappling with that fact that I am very single and that life would be a lot easier being part of a committed couple. I automatically did what many of us humans do- I had an inner dialogue that went a little something like this: “What is so repulsive about me that I don’t have someone in my life? Why am I alone? What am I doing wrong?” I cut myself off right there, because we all know that questions like that can make us answer them and before we know it we are talking behind our own backs saying things that even our worst enemies probably wouldn’t say. So, I closed my eyes, took some really deep breaths, and forced my monkey mind to just shut the hell up (most of the way anyway). I sent all of my questions away and just let my mind wander to who I think I am.
The answer astonished me. I saw myself doing my dream career, and being my dream person- who in a nutshell is extremely independent. This person didn’t have nor didn’t want a partner…at all. In fact, when I tried to force the image of my perfect mate into my dream life scenario- he didn’t fit. It wasn’t that he just didn’t fit – it was that I adamantly opposed to sharing my personal power and energy with someone.
This really made me scratch my head, because on the conscious level I have been going to sleep every night for the past year and half wondering when the universe would ease my pain and send me love. When, really all the while it wasn’t the universe (god) keeping him from me- it was me. So, I strongly suggest that you sit and listen to who you think you are and who you think you want….you may be shocked by the answer your soul spits out.
If you still cannot hear (as I suspect many of us cannot), e mail me and I will give you the name of an awesome hypnotherapist who helped me see some of my mental blocks and could possibly help you. My last words of wisdom come from my very best friend who texted me last week. The message was exactly this, “The yogis have a saying, when the student is really ready the teacher appears. So my adaptation of that is, when Currie is really ready her soul mate will appear.” To tailor that to you dear confused one: When you are really ready your love, soul mate, one night stand, friends with benefits or whatever you desire will appear. In the mean time, just live your life to the fullest everyday taking care not to waste time worrying about why you are alone, also- you can also take some time to consciously manifest your perfect partner so you can get a clearer idea of what you are looking for and when this person appears- you should be able to recognize them instantly.
For more of my rambling advice, e- mail me at email@example.com
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